“Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something.” – Plato
My mom use to quote Bambi frequently with the “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all”… And, it always came after I’d opened my mouth with something everyone could have lived without my having said… I would like to be able to add that I didn’t ever do that after I grew up, but no chance of that! I mean, I don’t go out of my way to be unkind, yet I can and have been misunderstood as an adult! So that leads to the importance of choosing words carefully and knowing well, the person we’re talking to.
My plan, after being hammered hard a few years ago when I was misunderstood, is to say less especially when I’m talking to someone I don’t know well or haven’t seen in a very long time (as people change and have painful experiences, that have happened in my absence). Making conversation can be very difficult for some of us… And that’s why this advice is really a wonderful thing… Say less: Hubby told me the first year we were married, that if I just ask questions most people will think you an amazing conversationalist, because people love to talk