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What’s in a Color?

The primary colors of the spectrum are said to be red, yellow, blue, and green; from there, so many other beautiful colors can be created.  Color … When we combine color with some action that is meant to help others, the result is tumultuously good .  Here is an example of that.

Yesterday as I considered how I could up-lift and encourage, I was also having a bit of cabin fever from this house bound business.  I decided to go to the local Safeway, which happened to still be open.  I thought to myself how hard these employees are working.  True, they are fortunate to still have a job they can go to, but consider the long and exhausting hours they are working as they enforce the many new protocols for safety and cleanliness.  So, I elected to go to the flower center of our local Safeway Store, and purchase bouquets of flowers, then present them to the lady checkers. (What do we do for the guys, buy them a beer?  But I digress… The guys we’ll deal with later.)

I arrived in the flower center and began searching the bouquets and the profusion of color before me.  What was the best

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Survive and Thrive

Many people are filled with the news of the pandemic outbreak.  And yes, it’s something to consider and be serious about its outcome and impact on one’s life.  But it is not the bottom line.  The bottom line is what will each do to survive and thrive, not only for self but for the well-being of family, one’s country, and the world?  We must survive and thrive by moving into a New Age.

Let’s start with shock.  Of course we are all surprised that life is changing so dramatically.  One day we’re going to work, making a pay check, and then heading home to relax.  Now, we work from home, worry about whether the paycheck will even show up in our bank account, and have more family than we ever hoped to have because the kids (all ages) are also home going as crazy as you and making it tough to work.  At all.  It’s tough to consider, but this is our new life (at least for the foreseeable future).  It’s time to be the creative people we all are, and find the new ways to thrive.  Americans as well as Europeans and all others are making an effort to find

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It lasts Until It’s Over

I am thinking that I should get back to work with writing, which I pretty much dumped after the death of our third son a short time ago…  Almost five years to be exact.   At that time, I had a manuscript almost finished to publish, had a possible publisher that I liked and who liked my work, and well…  Our son died.  There was the actual event, family arriving to support one another, planning the service, his burial, and then back home where I proceeded to just sit.  I continued all the daily things like laundry, Bible study, laundry, meals, I taught music a little, more laundry and then more meals.  Hubby and I  finally got a little dog to help ease the pain; and it did give us some peace; but it didn’t make me go back to work. I would start putting down words and end up staring at the page while I continued to sit.  When asked if I’d finished my project or how much I’d accomplished, I was known to have used that dog as the reason I couldn’t write.  The real reason was that I myself needed the encouragement to do it, to go back

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These Three Things

“I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, and compassion.  These three things are your greatest treasures.”  – Lao Tzu

One of the first things I do, after the day has a rhythm, is to open my Email.  Today one entry offered very sad news, news that breaks my heart. News that reminds me of Tzu’s quote.

A friend, Kay, has been moved to Hospice; and it seems that there is little hope of a recovery.  I am beyond sad; for this is a woman who has had compassion for many, myself included.  But more than that, she added the simplistic joy of teaching me how to grieve the death of my mother; and, she gave to me tools that I would use eight years later when one of our son died so unexpectedly.  Kay  understood the importance of patiently waiting on others as they wander through a grief process to find the light at the end of the tunnel.  Sitting here now and writing to  you, I wonder how many there are who can offer this to another…  Kay did.  What a woman!


Right now we all pray or lift up or whatever good thing we can from our souls to

What’s in a Word

“The only thing to fear is fear itself.” – These are the words of President Franklin D. Roosevelt in his first inaugural address. What is the fear that Roosevelt described?  Could it be that it is the fear of ourselves that is the culprit, for we are the ones who allow it to grip our lives. Fear only lives if we allow it to live. We are the masters of our choices.

Recently several persons have discussed with me the subject of fear. They’ve believed me a strong person, and with that strength in mind, they’ve wanted to know what I myself fear? Further, what do I think fear really is, and can I help them eliminate fear from their own lives. (Would that I could eliminate fear from one’s life, including my own for I have had moments of fear.)

At the time that Roosevelt said those words, “The only thing to fear is fear itself.” the entire United States of America was gripped in the worst depression the country had ever known. This president was looking for a way to help the country find something beyond despair in this horrible time. He was hoping that we would stop thinking about

Pugnare et Vincere

“Horses love to run.  But thoroughbreds love to race, and furthermore they like to win!”  –  Pugnare et Vincere

Hubby was raised on a horse farm; that said, he didn’t care to live the rest of his life around horses.  Who knows why and who can understand it, yet it’s the truth.  He left the farm for thoroughbred; I, in my own way am his pony!

Just call me his thoroughbred race horse, as I’ve been running a race of some kind all of my life.   Not only run but run for the win!  And not win for myself but for all… The Win/Win.  It may seem a bit unrealistic, but then I am one of  the Utopian Girls…  We shoot for Venus and get the Moon.    Like any racehorse, the race isn’t always what one expects….  Yet, it’s always a win when one aims for two finish lines:  Tot place and/or the finish line of knowledge.  We can always learn; and, when the world thinks we’ve lost, knowledge can even be the bigger win.

From this person’s perspective, competing against yourself is always a success story.  Audition against life and make it one’s best effort; watch everything and everyone around to

An Intermezzo on Opinion

There was a woman who had a coffee date with someone whom she thought she knew well.  (Hmmm….   Is that an opinion?)  After polite greetings to one another and seating themselves, the conversation began.  It wasn’t long before her friend’s finger was in her face, as her friend told her what she ought to believe and what she should think.  The woman was  surprised to say the least.  (Like I said, she thought she knew her friend.)  The woman’s reply was, “I’m not sure how I feel about your finger in my face”, to which  Mrs. Finger Pointer excused herself from the table of politeness, and made a joke of said friend’s comment by sticking all of her fingers in her face and letting said friend know that pointing at people was just what she does (whether a public place or private); and, basically that anyone who know’s her should simply get over it.  Whether this was F.P.’s true intent (that all should accept her actions) remains a mystery; it was not joy she had communicated that day.

I am still to this minute hoping that Mrs. Finger Pointer was perhaps embarrassed at having her finger in the face of a

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Four-Footed Saviour

Dogs.  Do you have one?  I do.  His name is Lewis, after C.S. Lewis, one the foremost writers of the Twentieth Century.  Lewis, AKA Lewie, came to our home about a year and half after the death of our son.  We know death, Hubby and I.  He lost his mother at the tender age of sixteen, just as he was getting to know her as an adult and friend.  I lost my brother at the age of twenty-three, just when we were getting ready to share our lives after his stent in the navy.  We’ve both lost our fathers now, and my mother is also gone…  My mother lived with us until her passing, so many of her things are here while she is not (yes, dispersing an estate from a home you shared with the deceased leaves holes that are exhausting but true). We had just recovered from my mother’s passing when our son suffered a massive cardiac arrest in our home and died three hours later in a hospital.  Death.  Yes, we know you well.

After Nathan died, we did all kinds of things to change it up. We redecorated almost every room in colors that were happy and up-lifting.  We framed his

“When the whole world is silent, even one voice becomes powerful.” – Malala Yousafzai

The mute button was invented by an engineer in 1955 (Polley by name) who worked for Zenith… Although a man named Robert Adler, who invented the television remote, should also be mentioned…  i.e. No remote, no mute button.  Anyway, they both did us a favor.  MUTE on the television means that one can temporarily stop the sound emitted from the television.  One would guess that which one mutes, would be the myriad of commercials that we would otherwise sit through to watch just one tv program.

Ah, silence!  It has always been my friend; so, when my family bought a television set that had this wonderful mute button, it was heaven for me.  One minute some woman is vomiting her vocabulary about her painful twenty-eight day cycle and the next, I have muted her!  No more discussion.  And, let us not forget the many commercial moments about medicine…  Twenty seconds of medical description followed by forty seconds of horrifying disclaimers, as to how this health providing med might also maim or kill the consumer.  MUTE!  How glorious thou art!

In the course of one TV program, there can be as many as six commercials per commercial break.  My parents would hit the mute button and then proceed to read or do cross word puzzles,

A New Vision

All this time, I’ve been quoting other people whom I believe to have said something worthwhile.  We need to hear and read things that are worthwhile, as this is a medicine to the brain and to the soul when times are confusing or difficult or both.  Today I’d like to give you a few of my own words in the hope that they will help in these troubled and confusing times.


We all are aware that we have two questionable persons running for the office of President of the United States of American.  We don’t personally know these people, but we have an idea that they are not a statesman or states woman… They seem self motivated or political or both.  And, as citizens, we need (not just want) someone who can not only lead but take us in a direction that is forward. At any rate oh-so-many of us are convinced that our best interests are not at hand where these candidates are concerned; and the people of America are deeply agitated as to the possible direction of our future.  And yet…  Is it they who are important, or is it WE?  We the People!  WE started this country and